Lessons from Mom

In 1956, Mother’s Day fell on May 13th. This was a special day for my mom, Beth Carder and her dad, Gerald Cook; and of course me! It was Gerald’s birthday and it was also the day I was born. Something about being born on a Sunday, on Mother’s Day and my grandfather’s birthday that has always had special meaning for me. My grandfather, we called him Pop, died when I was 12 years old. He was an entrepreneur, a man of faith and a really good husband to my grandmother. I have lots of great memories of him but mostly I remember him through my mother, Beth Carder. Here are a few lessons my mother learned from her mom and dad and in turn, I’ve learned from her.

I learned about unconditional love. My mother reminds me so much of her mother and dad. My Pop and Grandma Cook were both very strong in the Christian faith. They loved their kids with an unconditional love. My mother loved our family just as she was loved by her mother and daddy. I’ve always thought that more is caught that taught. Mom didn’t do so much talking to us but rather showed us that a parent always loves her children in spite of their messes. I’ve made a few messes in my life and Mom has always been there to support and love me. Of course there was always a price to pay for those messes, but her love never waivered!

I learned the value of an orderly home. I had the most idyllic childhood. Growing up in Dumas, Texas during the 60’s and 70’s, life was very good. One of these days, I’ll blog about those years. My mom always made sure we had everything we needed. Our home was always clean and neat; she made sure our clothes were clean and that we had plenty of good food. Getting our school lessons was critical, church attendance was mandatory and eating at least one meal a day around the table with plenty of conversation was the order of the day!

I learned how to grow old with grace and humor. My mom has always had a wonderful sense of humor. She doesn’t take herself too seriously and is a source of great joy and laughter to us. Whenever we are together, she keeps us laughing with the stories she tells. Just now I got off the phone with her and was laughing so hard I couldn’t talk!

So, yes I’m the product of absolutely the very best mother and father! We are blessed with excellent generational parenting in our family. I look and see how my brother and sister are awesome parents and am amazed at how the blessings from our Heavenly Father are being carried forward to the next generation. On this Mother’s Day, 2010, I say thanks to the most awesome mother. Love you Mom!

Fast forward to October 25, 2015. We prayed mom into heaven at midnight. We read scripture, prayed, laughed, reminisced, and most of all loved her right up to her last breath on this earth. She was not conscious but I know her spirit heard everything we said to her over these past couple of days. As she took her last breath, I know she began breathing heavenly air and is in the presence of our Heavenly Father, our Savior Jesus, and the many friends and family who have gone before.

Be encouraged friends, for the Lord is near!


4 responses to this post.

  1. Posted by Cheryl McWilliams on May 9, 2010 at 3:35 pm

    I loved this post, Randy. We come from some good stock.


  2. Posted by Mindy Stapleton on May 9, 2010 at 5:38 pm

    Hey Randy!

    This was beautiful. I learned somethings about our family also. Thanks for the post!!!


  3. Posted by Kathy Linnville on May 9, 2010 at 5:43 pm

    That’s awesome dude…Love my mama too, she is a great lady. I love to keep my kids guessing..and stay current, if they think something is cool then I wear it until they don’t think it’s cool anymore..LOL


  4. Posted by Margie Howerton on October 26, 2015 at 4:06 pm

    Beautiful tribute, Randy. I enjoyed reading and learning more about you and your mom and family. My mom wet to be with the Lord on Father’s Day 1993. I miss her every day!! Love to you and your family!


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